Take my word
But he can be an example for what I want to know: At what point do our words or actions represent who we are?
I guess what I mean is how much, or how often do you have to say something before people believe your words represent who you are? Is it once, twice, a dozen times? Same goes for how often you do something.
Maybe it doesn't have to do with volume. Does it have to do with how enthusiastically you speak certain words or carry out certain actions?
Mel Gibson ranted about Jews but insisted he, unlike his words, is not anti-Semitic. Richards ranted about black folks, but insisted he isn't racist against them. A boxer - Mike Tyson, if I remember correctly - once wrote a book in which he made a controversial statement. Later, when a reporter asked about the statement, he told the reporter he was misquoted. Several dozen guys on Dateline NBC's "To Catch a Predator" insisted their attempts to hook up with a "13"-year-old girl were first time attempts, that they'd never done it before.
Drug users caught by cops say they only took one hit. Hell, we had a president who said he had a drug in his mouth and did not take a hit.
How much, or how "seriously" do we have to say or do something for other people to believe we mean it?
Think about it. When we're saying positive and uplifting things, we need only do it with energy to convince people right away that we mean what we say. So why are people so reluctant to believe we reallllllly mean it when our energetic words or actions are bad?
My mom says it's our natural reluctance to believe the worst in people.
I don't know. Hearing that just makes me even more skeptical.